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It’s quite easy to think you will leave if your spouse betrays you but when it happens reality sets in, Because it is never easy being confronted with the reality of divorce and dissolving your marriage. Sometimes it’s not having an affair that breaks up marriages rather it’s the inability of the unfaithful spouse to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them which will make the betrayed spouse to give up trying to save her marriage when the unfaithful spouse continues to be selfish, Shady and untrustworthy.
Hi, I need your help. My marriage is falling apart. My husband has been unfaithful so many times I can’t take his sorries and explanations anymore. All that I want now is to divorce him. We have been together since 2006 and we got married last year 2015. We a have a 9 year old son and I’m pregnant with our second baby now. The thing is he has been trying to show me how sorry he is and trying to convince me not to leave him. I do not care anymore he has broken my heart so many times I can no longer trust him with it. He is coming this Friday and I’m afraid to tell him that he should stop trying to save our marriage because I don’t want it anymore. I have been told by a friend that I’m being selfish, I’m not thinking about the kids and how this will affect them, but I feel like I’m drowning in this marriage, I’m bitter and I fail to be a good mother to my kids. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
You have every right to exit your marriage as the trust is broken and vows have been deeply violated. Lets be honest there are advantages to leaving at least it will save you the process of hard recovery that might even take longer than expected but have you thought of your son and the child in your womb before thinking of a divorce? You have invested so much of yourself in this marriage are you letting all that go so easy? There may be hope of healing and recovering your marriage that may be more satisfying than the one you experienced before and fixing what is broken might be better than letting it go. It is better you avoid making permanent decisions at this early stage until you are emotionally stable so you don’t make a decision that you will regret later. I cannot tell you whether or not to stay with your husband, Honestly, That is a decision no one not even a marriage coach can make for you.
The vow for better for worst also implies in this scenario, If your spouse has agreed to save your marriage he will need your support and commitment to make it a success but if you are just going through the motion or have made up your mind to leave the reconciliation will be impossible. Though saving a marriage is hard work but if you support your husband and both of you are really committed to the task and work at it you will build your marriage more stronger than it was.
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