I DON’T KNOW IF I SHOULD WAIT FOR HIM TILL HE IS READY TO SETTLE DOWN

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Learning your boyfriend’s intentions for your relationship is a key factor in planning your future together. Whether you want to get married some day or you’re not quite ready to take that bold step, you need to know how he feels. Now a days love is subjective and relationships comes and goes,  you need to know if yours is meant to last for a lifetime, and you both deserve to know if your relationship has marriage potential.

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I started dating my boyfriend in my 200 level and he was in his 400l studying law. He graduated when I was in my 300l but until now he has not been able to go to law school or even serve because of school delay. My problem is , am now a graduate and will b serving in 2/3 months and my boyfriend God willing will be serving same time but am worried because he is someone that is very ambitious and is looking at building himself before thinking of settling believe me i pray for nothing but the best for him and this will take about 5 years and counting . We re both 23 years old though he lied about his age earlier but I cared less cause I love him. Now am worried because I do not know if I should wait till he will b ready to settle or I should move on but it’s scary walking away from a relationship of almost 3 years and starting all over again with someone else. We spoke about it and he was like he will understand if I can’t wait for him. Secondly, we are having issues concerning sex he feels I don’t love him enough to do it with him and it got me wondering , what is the essence of giving up something I have kept for 23 years when my future with him is not sure? I suppprt him in my own little way interms of gifts and encouragements but he sees it as nothing .Am really confused right now because I will be going to see him soon and a decision has to be reached before I do …. Please ignore my errors .. Thank you so much

Dear Confused

Most relationships go through natural stages of evolution. Generally, a couple begins dating casually and then may decide to date exclusively. As a couple spends more time together, they move past the passion phase and start to share more facets of their personalities. Thereby considering the bond of marriage. If your boyfriend puts you in the picture of his future, then you don’t need to be scared of the age and time. It does not really matter how many years you spend dating, its the end result that matters.

Chasing ambitions is not a reason to quit a relationship, If both partners love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together, age and time do not matter. Your boyfriends response is not encouraging, If he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you he would not understand if you cant wait for him. Find out if he sees you in his future, and if yes you can build that future together, but if he doesn’t see you in his future, there is no point remaining in such a relationship, and please keep your virginity till you are married because he can Lie just for it.

Hey darlings, this sister is in desperate need of your advice, please leave your comment and advice in the comment box below.

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