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There is no circumstance in a marriage that justifies marital abuse of any kind, be it emotional, physical, mental or sexual. Domestic violence is a crime and many women out there are suffering silently for fear of being ridiculed or fear of being single again. He might not leave a mark on you and can also come back to apologies but the fact still remains, he will repeat it again and again.
My husband enjoys raping me, it might sound very funny but it is true. But what baffles me is that I don’t deny him sex and he just last 1 min and he is out .I will be in the room dressing for work, he will just rush in,slap me push me to the ground and sometimes flog me with his belt, tear my dress and just penetrate me forcefully, as soon as he does that he just pours and shamelessly get up to the bath.This has been going on ever since we got married and I have conceived my 2 kids from this terrible kind of sex. He has never lasted 2min, am not assuming things am very sure, he just last 1 min that is all.The day I tried talking to him to see a doctor, he gave me the beatings of my life that landed me in the hospital. Please house is this enough to divorce him or should I just keep enduring ? But till when ?This is affecting me sociologically and am getting depressed .
Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both married couples and not endured. This is domestic violence and that he is married to you or paid your dowry does not give him the right to abuse you in such manner. Abusive behaviour is never part of the plans for marriage. I can only imagine what you are going through and can’t feel it because you are in the best position to know how you are feeling. So only you can decide if you want to stay in such marriage or not. He needs help but he is not acknowledging the fact that he needs one which makes his case critical because you can only help him if he knows he needs help.
A man that loves you will never lay a finger on you talkless of forcing himself on you. Though some men enjoy this kind if sex but he has taken it too far without considering your feelings. This kind of marraige requires a thorough decision with a sound mind especially when children are involve and you wouldn’t want your children to be a replica of their father. You need to decide what you want to do to save your children and their future before things spiral out of control.
Hey darlings, this sister is in need of your advice please help her out.
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