My husband thinks I’m not a considerate wife!!!

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Am a graduate, just finished serving. My hubby is a military personal and is presently in kaduna for officers cadre training but before travelling he promised to give me N500k to start my business bt on getting to training he had an issue there which may either lead to him remaining just an ordinary soldier or get d rank of an officer, his faith has nt bin decided for nw. So he told me dt he will apply for loan n give me 250k to start on condition dt i take care of my feeding wt my 6 months old baby since the bank will deduct d loan 4rm his salary for 4 years though he promised to top it up any time bt i was adviced  to disagree that top up is easier said from a man that i shld ask him to give me d startup money conveniently and get him to pay my monthly feeding allowance that i shld let him get use to d monthly feeding allowanc cos when we start having more kids, the story will be different. Now hubby sees me as not considerate said his job is no longer reliable cos of the insurgency fight in d military. He is also planning on doing a part time masters degree n switch to lecturing if d job is no longer conducive. I nid ur advice on what to do.

Amaka: dear friend, first and foremost marriage is not a “I was advised” or “they said I should” kind of relationship, the first thing you should have done the first time was not to talk with “they” but with your husband. Only you know the kind of man you married, you know if he keeps to his words or not, and if he says he’ll do something ,will he or will he not, you should be a supporting wife not a I must have it my way kind of wife if this marriage is going to work my dear. So my first advice is to share the burden with your husband ask him what you can do together to come up with the money but if 250k can start up the business, you should start up with that and as he has promised with time more can be done. You can feed and support your baby from the profit and if that doesn’t work he would understand that he still needs to support his family no matter what but make him feel his best is good enough! And keep praying for your man that when more kids come it won’t be a problem to take care of them!!

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