Introverts make an average of 50% in our society which means we all have one introvert in our life. Most people have misunderstood introverts to being aloof or shy without realising that they have many desirable qualities that makes them unique, introverts love people but they do not love spending too much of their time around people. They get energy from being alone and they don’t mind time in solitude, if you are in a relationship with an introvert its important to understand their personality traits so you have a thriving and healthy relationship with them, here are a list of what you should understand when you are in a relationship with an introvert;
1. An introvert takes a while to open up to others
You need to have some patience when talking to an introvert, they always need time to feel comfortable with you. Most introverts have been heartbroken-ed in relationships because their partners leave them for lack of understanding. Introverts need mental encouragement and most people do not give them that, show an introvert that you find them interesting and worthy of talking to, they will open up to you because of your support.
2. They require a lot of time alone to restore their energy
You need to respect their boundaries because they acquire energy from spending time in solitude, though, they don’t mind having fun and going places, they also need time to themselves so they can decompress and re-curate. Introverts put their self-care and self-love at a high priority so spending time alone allows them the chance to slow down and work on their mental and spiritual health. Don’t make them feel guilty or wrong for needing some space rather support them and understand that they can be a better partner to you if you allow them some time to recharge their batteries.
3. They love having deep, stimulating conversation
Introverts may not show off their conversation skills when you first meet them, but you should give them a chance to warm up to you. Introverts don’t like small talks, they enjoy conversations that teaches them something new or challenges their opinion.
4. They stay away from loud, crowded places
Introverts always avoid noisy and bustling places, they would rather spend their time out quietly to themselves and they do things in small doses. The hectic environment of most places tends to overwhelm their senses as they have a high sensitivity to stimuli.
5. They may have a hard time sharing their feelings with you
Introverts have a high sensitivity to energies and feelings and sometimes feel overwhelmed by the conflicting and turbulent frequencies in the world. An introvert might retreat into their shell from time to time, afraid of feeling too vulnerable, don’t pressure them if they don’t want to open up just yet, simply tell them they can talk to you whenever they feel the need to do so. This will show them that you support them but also care about hearing what they feel deep down inside. They just need someone to make them feel safe and loved, so offer this to them and they will eventually pour their heart out to you.
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Thanks for this platform. I need an advice concerning my relationship. Me and my boyfriend started dating as a young school leaver (secondary school to be precise) and our relationship was going on well till BF gained admission into higher institution and started with several girls in my street and we broke up due to that. So I secured admission too the next year….and we later became friends and one thing led to other and we started dating again and he apologized for all his wrong deeds that he was being childish back then and we moved on. He took my virginity the second year but what I noticed on the day he disflowered me was that he still chatted with another girl and told her he loved because I went through his phone accidentally but I overlooked it and we moved on. But he started cheating later on severally and he kept apologizing and I let go.i overlooked so many shots. we are graduates and he’s working.he said we should move in together because there’s no money for marriage yet I should try and understand which I did. After moving in together, all he does now is nagging and complaining. Don’t do this don’t do that and if I get angry he’ll tell me to move out and would start begging later. Until one day a lady called her one day that I texted her and called her bitch and that’s how he pounced on me and started beating and I threw fork at him and his head got wounded. I stopped loving him since that day but am still living with him. The most annoying part is he hangs out with his friends every night and comes home late.and he ll claim he loves me so much and all that. I stopped loving him because I was beaten once by him. Please I need advice on what do because the guy was there for me when I was in school when I had several problems back then and he takes care of me till now he buys me bags, clothes plans several things with me. And the main thing is he wants to relocate to US anytime next year and am scared. I slept with him alone all my life I don’t cheat. but am confused with so many things right now. I don’t know if I should stay or leave him.
You are not confused you’ve said it yourself you have stopped loving him. There can be no relationship without love and vice versa, if you know you have fallen out of love then you need to move on because the only reason you are still with him presently is because of what you can gain materially.
Because you’ve come a long way it would be difficult to let go but you have to. Pick up the pieces of your life and leave his house. Its not by force that you would marry the man that took your virginity, when something is broken into a million pieces there’s no amount of glue that would patch it together and make it new again. Consider this an experience and part of growing up but now its time to heal and to take care of YOU.
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