Communication is important in a relationship and it can either make or break your relationship. We have our choices on the words we speak to our partner and anyhow we want to speak, our words either hurt or help our relationship. You should always remember that we all have a choice to communicate with kindness. Continue reading to see 8 different sentences that can send your relationship to a collision course and also ways to communicate lovingly;
1. If you ever____, I will leave you; rather that behaviour is unacceptable to me
This is a threatening phrase and an aggressive tactic to handle conflict. There are bound to be arguments and conflict in a relationship and threatening to breakup with your partner over a difference would be very embarrassing for your partner. Unless this is a crucial issue affecting your belief system.
2. I don’t care what you do rather it’s important for us to decide what we do together
If you did not care about your partner’s behaviour, you wouldn’t be saying this phrase that can decide the course of your relationship. It’s obvious you care you just probably dislike what your partner is doing but you are afraid to say that.
3. I don’t want to talk about it rather let’s talk later
Shutting down a conversation just to avoid conflict is selfish, you both have right to your opinions and if your emotions are high, it’s a great time to wait to talk through.
4. You never or always rather I prefer that you wouldn’t do that
You will be exaggerating the truth anytime you say you always or you never. The fact is your partner has probably acted the way you dislike severally and you kept quiet, well your partner is not to blame because he can’t read minds. If something bothers you, give your partner that respect and point to that specific behaviour you don’t like and how you would prefer him/her not to act same in the future. Only you can set boundaries in your relationship.
5. You are just like my ex rather I dislike your behaviour
No one wants to be compared to an ex lover, your partner is a unique individual and you should treat them with their own twist. You can dislike your partners behaviour and say so without bringing you ex into the picture.
6. I will love you if you___ rather I love you for who you are
There are differences between conditional love and unconditional love, you have put your love on conditions when you say i’ll love you if __. This will be treating your partner like a dog that will not be rewarded with your love if they do the trick that you asked them to do.
7. You are always coming up with crazy ideas rather I’ll support you
You cannot love all your partners ideas especially if they are costly but you can find a way to be positive and curious rather than negative and immediately dismiss their ideas.
8. Why do you do that rather I want to connect with you and understand you more deeply
When there is an argument, there is usually a difference of opinion and if you approach your partner with an attitude of wanting to understand their view so that you can become closer to them as a person, then you will be better at staying together.
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