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My name is Linda and am in my late twenties. Please i need your advice.
Am in a relationship with a guy for 2 years now.I love him selflessly and i encourage him also. He reciprocates to that also. At the beginning of the friendship ,sometimes he gives some money for weekend , he visits me also. But his fault is that he doesn’t communicate . I used to talk before he calls me. sometimes if i call, he doesn’t pick.
Secondly my genotype is AS and in have asked him severally about his without getting a reply. He promised me that we will go together to the hospital for check but he haven’t fulfilled it .With anger i have stopped asking him about that.
He confesses love to me and plan to live together as partners but he has never introduced me as his girl friend to his friends which i know. He always visits me, try to be close to me.
Thirdly he is the stingy type. since january he has never given me money for anything. Am working yes ,but i think he should atleast once in a while give me something. I dont complain nor fight him but am really not happy with his method of friendship and i have asked him to leave me but he his all over me.
I have asked him for the mission of the relationship and he did not give me any reply. He said am fast. i should take it easy. He is about settling down soon but i dont know his plans towards me.
Please what do you think .,
I have a strong feeling you are the side chic here, he does not pick your calls at times, he is stingy (no one can love you and be stingy to you). Why would he not introduce you to anyone. All these signs are signs that you are a side chic.
In every relationship communication is key, it is very possible that i could be wrong about it, it could be other reasons, so it would be a good idea to talk to him about what he does you do not like and also to express how you feel.
Dear Aunty Good day, May God bless you for the way you have been helping people that are in need. This is my first time of writing and I am hoping you will help me out.
I have been married for two years+ now, dated my husband for seven months before marriage. Since he got a new job till date, I don’t really know what is happening. Trouble started when he moved to Enugu where he got a new job, we were living together at Awka until the new job made us lives apart because I work in Awka. He does not give me and our son up keep money and I don’t complain because I usually use my salary for our up keep. I saw myself through my nine months pregnancy, paid my hospital bills and took care of our child since then till now. Initially when he started the job he normally come home on Fridays and go back to work on Mondaymorning, later he change it from Saturday to Monday without any good reason and now he comes home sometime once in two or three months. My husband and I have not been intimate for seven months now we hardly even communicate. I have sat him down on different occasions so we could talk it out but it always ended up please am sorry it will not happen again. But it still happening and I don’t want our families to know so I called the attention of a catholic Priest to help me in that matter and he the priest invited both of us I mean me and my husband, and he ask us to tell him what the problem is, I told him everything that I have mentioned here and he could not say anything reasonable that made him abandoned his family. The priest gave us some piece of advice and asks him to take us to where he lives because I don’t know where he lives and I have tried to know where he lives but he refused and keeps on telling me we will plan the visit. when the priest told him to take us where he lives he agreed to take us there but when we gets out of the chapel he said that we are not going to his house that day that it will be when he visit home we talk about it. Does it mean that he is living with another lady? I feel nothing for him again other than hate. Am planning for a divorce, please I need your help for the sake of my child. Please I will accept and appreciate every advice. Thanks
This is a rather serious case, it is clear that there are reasons why he does not want you to go to his house and also why he behaves the way he does.
Talk to him again, express yourself deeply and tell him how much what he does hurt you and his family with his actions. Talk to him, keep talking to him get someone that he listens to and get the person to talk to him, if this does not work talk to his family too.
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