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There is a saying that goes, you will know your true friends when bad things happen to you. But sometimes you can also know your true friends when good things happen to you, if you sieve and weigh both sayings, you will find out that they are all correct in their own way and can be applied differently. But if your boyfriend attraction for you was real then he would never leave or forget about you, though, often times, partners uses their jobs and busy schedules as a criteria for not caring for their partner.
My story is long but I’ll try to make it brief. There is dis guy i av been dating for almost a year now n about six months ago i became an orphan i.e i lost my mum n during dt time he didn’t check up on me. Some weeks after my mum died he traveled to his village he barely called or even text but since i had my own demons to fight i left him to he’s issues. One day he called n was trying to blame me for not checking on him since i didn’t see him or hear from him n i was surprised at such accusations cos he was just trying to turn d tables i got furious n ended d call. He still continued he’s very funny character and i let him be (cos am not sure i loved him but i know i cared for him) and then i met a new guy. I even think i had forgotten d other guy existed n didnt bother telling d new guy about him, this new guy has been there for me also making me forget my pains and aches P.S am an only child n my mum was all i had n dt really mattered to me so some people can relate to d pain i was feeling. So back to d story…Now last week d the old guy out of d blue credited my account i called him to ask what it was for because for months we barely spoke n now he’s crediting my account he said i should use it for my upkeep, i thanked him n hung up. He started calling since dt day and acting as if nothing happened between us n we were still dating. Officially we are cos no one broke it of. I just found out he’s coming back to town dt might be d reason 4 d change in attitude. I don’t know if i should tell the new guy about him cos we started dis new relationship with telling the truth no matter how bitter it is. He’s free with he’s phone n accounts with me n i feel if i hide this from him am just a hypocrite but i don’t also want to hurt he’s feeling. Pls Amaka i need your advice
Relationships has to do with the heart and should not be something that one can go in and come out at anytime because the heart is the most fragile thing. Guys always know what they want and they go for it, if your boyfriend left you at the time you needed him most without a word, then he does not care for your feelings. It might be that his job or other personal things were occupying his mind at that time, but trying to blame you for his own mistakes is a sure red-flag. You don’t need to hide this from your boyfriend
He is looking for a companion when he is around that is the whole idea of crediting your account in anticipation so you won’t hold any grudge against him when he is around. He credited your account at his own will but it would be best if you do not touch the money until you relate everything to your new boyfriend, it doesn’t matter if you didn’t tell him before you started the relationship, as far as you can remember he was least important that was why you never discussed about it. Telling your new partner will help you get over your ex and move on with your new boyfriend.
Hey darlings, this sister is in need of your advice please help her out.
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